Interesting read. What I get from this is that you’re in a process; that it’s a daily practice; that it’s not easy; and that when you give your body what it needs, it rewards you with health — and the opposite is also true.

As with any discipline, it begins to make much more sense when love, in the form of self-care, takes up residence at the heart of it. You don’t give up alcohol to punish yourself but to feel your best. You don’t forego restaurants out of meanness; you recognize that health, for you, begins at home. The treats and rewards you start to crave align with your higher good: exercise, sleep, dark chocolate, a cherished glass of wine, time with friends, etc. Weight loss or maintenance becomes a happy byproduct rather than a goal — much the way a calm mind is the byproduct of meditation and not necessarily the goal.

And I like what some of the other commenters said here, that asking the skinny one could be a great place to start if one is ready to begin leaving behind fad diets. Maybe it’s genetic, maybe it’s more complex.